“Black History, Legacy & The Pressure We Put on Our Kids”

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign. [00:00:15] Speaker B: Y' all already know what it is. This is the King Me podcast, sir. And I'm your host, B. And. [00:00:20] Speaker C: And I'm Cue to Don. [00:00:21] Speaker B: And listen, man, we got something in store for y' all to my left for me, maybe y' all right. Depending on why y' all looking at this, man. I got my guy, Mr. Hill, to feel what's going on. I call him TJ, though. But, you know, he got his own podcast, man. And I want y' all to check it out, too, man. Check out his Instagram and everything else, man. Plug in your information, man. [00:00:43] Speaker A: Oh, man, it's heal to feel H E A L the number two. And feel F E E L. That's on all platforms. Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube as well. YouTube. But, man, ab appreciate it, man. Q. Nice meeting you, brother. [00:01:01] Speaker C: Nice to meet you, too, man. [00:01:02] Speaker A: For sure, man. It's always, you know, an amazing thing where black men can come together, man. And just like, as the Bible says, man. Oh, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity. [00:01:14] Speaker B: I thought you was saying, hey, boy. [00:01:16] Speaker C: You talking that talk now, you know what I'm saying? We'll get it started in here, man, for real, man. [00:01:20] Speaker A: You know, And I mean, I just always think about that, man. And, man, I always try to defy the stereotype. That's one thing I always want to show the world. Cause we're not a monolith. Black men are not a monolith. And, man, we come in all different kind of shapes, forms, mindsets. But, man, when we can come together and build, man, be forged, shout out. [00:01:44] Speaker B: To the group, man. [00:01:45] Speaker A: Hey, man, it's a beautiful thing, man. So, yeah, appreciate y'. All. [00:01:49] Speaker C: Yes, sir. Most definitely. [00:01:50] Speaker B: Hey, listen, man, we. I mean, today, I don't too much really got a topic, but, you know, since it's February, right, And it's a lot of things going on in February, man. You got Black History Month. We have Valentine Day. Love Monday. We got the Heart association thing with your heart. You know what I'm saying? And then we also got the super bowl in February, so it's a whole lot of stuff going on in February. But one thing I want to highlight is, you know, Black History Month. Black History Month is so important, man. And it remind me of a famous black historian. I think it's Carter G. Woodson. And he said that. [00:02:31] Speaker A: If I can. [00:02:31] Speaker B: Remember the quote, people, yeah, people who don't know their future. I mean, know their history. They don't know how to build their future. And in Some way. And I think I said it right. Yeah. [00:02:45] Speaker A: And they bout to repeat it, too. [00:02:48] Speaker B: And they bout to repeat it. [00:02:49] Speaker A: You bout to repeat it, man. So. [00:02:51] Speaker B: So I really wanna start it off, man, talking about that, man, Black History Month, what Black History Month means to y'. [00:02:57] Speaker A: All. [00:02:57] Speaker B: I know it's just a month, but how y' all feel about it, man? Where y' all at with everything, especially with everything going on in the world with politicians and stuff like that, man? And you know, we recently had our president mark our people, previous president, you know what I'm saying? I know some of y' all seen that, man, but with everything going on, and he did it in Black History Month, so, you know, Andy said he. [00:03:22] Speaker C: Ain'T gonna apologize for it. [00:03:23] Speaker B: I know, yeah, yeah, he said he. [00:03:25] Speaker C: Wasn'T gonna apologize for it. [00:03:27] Speaker B: Yeah, it's tough. Along with him take trying to take away all some of these museums that is funded really by the state or whatever. But he trying to. Federal, State, but federal. But yeah, he want to take away some of those too, as well, man. So I just want to start it off with how y' all feel about Black History Month, man? I'll let you go. I'll let you go. [00:03:54] Speaker C: No, you go ahead. Go ahead, rock out. [00:03:56] Speaker A: Black History means to me, just to celebrate, not just like a month like you said, but it just highlights how many inventions and contributions that we have contributed to this world, man. One of the first people that I ever did a project on, I still remember this to this day, was Garrett Morgan. You know, Gary Morgan, he invented the stoplight, you know, the gas mask, things like that, man. So things that we use every day and like, even recently, I see where like the mailbox, things that will come use the ironing board, you know what I'm saying? So without these things, it wouldn't be, you know, what we have today. And just furthermore, when my son, man, I got an 8 year old, and I always wanted to instill that dignity and pride within him, to be proud of who he is just as a person and his skin color and let him know that his skin color isn't an inferior thing to have. It's something to be celebrated and not just, you know, in America, but just throughout the world, man. We have made many contributions, man. We colonized, you know, made them, you know, they didn't want to wash themselves at one point, you know what I mean? So we made sure that they were clean and they were able to be domesticated, just domesticated as a people. So, man, it's not just A Black History Month thing. It's, man, black history throughout the world and the many contributions that we made, and that's something that should be celebrated. Like I said, not just a month, not just a day, man. 365, 25, 25. I say. I say 25, 8, 366. Just to go the extra mile with us, man. For real? [00:05:40] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. [00:05:40] Speaker B: That's love. [00:05:41] Speaker C: Okay. So for me, I like that. For me, like you said, I think it's very important to recognize, you know, just the things that we have done. One of the things that I found out recently that was kind of, you know, the little coupler thing that go on the train carts, but between the real carts. [00:05:58] Speaker A: Oh, man. [00:05:58] Speaker C: Yeah. A black guy created it. But see, on the downside of that, it's crazy how we've always been finessed, man. I think, if I'm not mistaken, they ended up getting the patent from him or he ended up selling the patent for little to nothing. So something that would have made. Cause nothing comes in America unless it hits a train at some point. For the most part, that's a fact. [00:06:20] Speaker B: Back in the day. [00:06:21] Speaker C: Exactly. So think about what that would have did for his family if he could have kept that legacy going and kept the funds for, you know, something that he worked hard to create. So, man, just, you know, acknowledging what we did and taking ownership of what we did, you know, and don't be so quick to just let everybody in our circle and let everybody take what our culture is. To me, that's what we got to keep on striving to do. Keep on building the culture and just taking ownership of it. [00:06:46] Speaker B: You know, I learned something about patent. I learned that patents had expiration dates on, and you have to re. I guess, get it recertified, so to speak, so you can renew your patent. And a lot of times, a lot of businesses that doing some stuff, man, or probably looking at what somebody created, sometimes they be looking at that deadline. Like, as soon as that junk Inspire, boy, they ran on it, man. I'mma get it. [00:07:22] Speaker C: But see, the problem with that is the misproportion of education. [00:07:26] Speaker B: Yeah, it is. [00:07:28] Speaker C: When you're not. You can't be faulted for what you don't know. A lot of times, bro, we just don't be knowing. It ain't that. We ain't like, okay, if somebody tell you, you know, get a trademark, get a patent, you thinking like, okay, I'm good. Very rarely do they tell you, like. Cause I've never heard that until you just. You you just share that with us. I'm thinking, if you get a patent, this is a lifelong thing. I'm not thinking, like, you know, it can go out. So it's just even a miseducation of us. Like, you look at it and I'm just. Go ahead and say it. White people are educating their people a little bit differently than we educate. So that in itself is crazy. Cause like I said, I never knew that. And I'm sure the average person don't know. [00:08:07] Speaker B: I just found that out, like, a few months ago talking with this engineer, and he told me about another company that doing something as similar as we was doing, as we doing it. And he said their patent is almost up. So by the time. And it lasts about 10 years, you know, and by the time it's up, they already. Already on top of what he was gonna do. You know what I'm saying? Something new. [00:08:35] Speaker A: That's crazy. And I'm thinking about, too. Just like. [00:08:40] Speaker C: I don't know if y' all heard. [00:08:41] Speaker A: But the girl that did the Dr. Pepper, like slogan, she's doing the new jingle for Dr. Pepper. [00:08:46] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah, I saw that they paid. [00:08:47] Speaker A: Her a million dollars to do that. But I'm thinking now that you speaking on, I'm like, yo, like, you really sold yourself short. [00:08:55] Speaker C: Yeah, she did, man. When I saw it, I thought, like. [00:08:58] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? [00:08:59] Speaker B: How much they sold it for? [00:09:00] Speaker C: A million. [00:09:01] Speaker A: They let her use her voice in the song that she created for Dr. Pepper for a million dollars, man. [00:09:06] Speaker B: You know what I think about Prince? When Prince was talking about Mariah Carey had signed that deal about. I don't know if it was 100 million or something like that. It was either 20 or 100 million. And he did the numbers on that, and he said, so who really came out on top? The label. [00:09:23] Speaker A: Real. [00:09:23] Speaker B: For real. [00:09:24] Speaker C: And they gonna always win. It goes back to this thing that I was watching before, and they was like, if they offer you 100 million, then you know it's worth 500 million. It's like the guy from the Lion King, I think his name, Jason Weaver, the guy down, the original Lion King, they were gonna pay him a flat rate. This is where the education come in at. But his mama was like, nah, we want royalties. We'll take the royalties. He still, to this day, gets paid from that movie. His kids will get paid, like. And it goes on. So it's just, you know, again, having that education to say, you know, this is how things go. [00:09:58] Speaker B: But who, like, how can you get access to I mean, nowadays you can get access to information and stuff like that, but still, it's still so many loopholes and stuff like that where people can kind of, you know, undercut you. So it's like being educated, like right now, probably gonna go to the, you know, to my dad house, super bowl, you know, most of them eating, drinking and stuff like that. Most of the time people don't really be talking about, like, talking about nothing. Yeah, for real, dog. For real, dog. Like, they don't be talking about. They just be talking about sports. [00:10:32] Speaker C: I don't know, bro. I blame our black community for that though. Because when men get together, for some strange reason, very rarely does our conversations ever translate to that kind of stuff. And I don't know why. I got people that I talk to and I'm like, if I don't. And I'm not saying this, I'm being very humble when I say this. If I don't bring up the idea, if I don't bring it up, it'll never get talked about. And I'm like, yo, how do I get these people on the same wavelength? And how do I get around people that edify me as much as I edify the other people that I'm around? Like, so I don't know, bro. I don't know where we fall short at with that. That is a good question though, bro. That's a great question. [00:11:12] Speaker B: What you do for us? What do you think? [00:11:14] Speaker A: Man, I believe just a matter of networking, man. A lot of us do the same thing. So it's going to be hard for us to get knowledge in regards to getting a patent or knowing where our money can go or how we can, you know, build our money. I'm in a group right now, friends that I went to college with, man, these guys are engineers, doctors, I work for the government and what have you. And like, the information that they have, man, is. It's mind boggling. And it's not a. It doesn't scare me, but it's just like, man, y' all have this knowledge and like, I wanna see how I can contribute to it besides talking about sports or talking about, you know, anime or just trivial things. Just trivial things. So, man, I get it. I just think we just have to broaden our net and don't be afraid to go out there to get what we think desired. And man, everybody can't go. Everybody can't go. One thing my granddad said too, he's like, man, you can't call on an electrician for a plumbing problem. So if you know this is something that you want, you have to go out to these spaces and, man, meet those people. Just like you went to go see Jason. [00:12:42] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. [00:12:43] Speaker A: You know what I mean? That's not going on around here. So you have to go out there to it. You have to go out there to it. So I think that's a big thing. Stop being so afraid. I think the universe rewards decisive men, men who make decisions and go towards those things. And one thing too that I believe, and I talk to my cousin about this a lot, is we lack faith because we know too much. When you know a lot of things, it's going to kind of hinder you because you kind of know what the outcome is. But when you operating in faith, you know, you're just walking towards it, believing that you're going to get what's deserving of you as you go along. So we have, we have to stop trying to know so much and operate in faith and just going out there getting what we need, bringing it back, and don't be afraid to share it, man. Like I, I'm a millennial. My daddy is a baby boomer, right? [00:13:44] Speaker B: Right. [00:13:45] Speaker A: And I tell him all the time, I'm like, yo, there's no reason for you to still be so tight fist with stuff. When you got a son, you got a grandson that has to live in this life after you. So what, you know, you should be passing it and not saying, oh man, well, you gotta figure it out. Just like how I figured it out, huh? Like, imagine that. Imagine I got my 8 year old right there. And I told you this on the first time he was on the pod, he said, man, dad, I want to be smart like you when I grew up. I say, son, you already smarter than me. What I had to learn in my 30s, man, you learning right now, seven, eight years old. So, man, imagine your mind when it's going to, when you're my age. So you already advanced in me, so I'm not gonna hold on and all this, hey, man, well, you gotta get her how I get it, man? Nah, that doesn't, it's not gonna amount to anything. And even though you mean well, you might mean well, doesn't mean you're doing well by keeping information away and hindering somebody else from furthering the legacy. Like, I don't wanna be a hindrance to my son, but furthering the legacy, right? You know, and putting everything out on the table saying, hey, this is how you do this? I did it like this. It's not going to work like that. So, man, we just have to be more giving and not looking for anything in return, man. [00:15:12] Speaker D: You see, that's what parents are supposed to do, right? That's what parents are supposed to do. We're supposed to create a world for our kids where they're able to attain what we haven't been able to attain in our life quicker. [00:15:25] Speaker A: Exactly. Exactly. [00:15:27] Speaker D: I want them to get. You know, I always tell my son, you know, I need you to get to the money faster than I got to the money for real. And it's not about chasing money. It's just about whatever your success is and setting you up for whatever it is you. And it's more so about the process of things rather than the actuality of the thing. And so my son gets. [00:15:46] Speaker A: I like that. [00:15:47] Speaker B: You. [00:15:47] Speaker D: My son gets a $15 allowance from me. Right. Per week. The rule is you have to take $5 and save. You have to take $5 and invest. You got a cash app. You don't buy whatever it is you wear. Nike. Buy $5 worth of Nike this week. Buy $5 worth of Nike THIS week. Buy $5 worth of Bitcoin. You have to invest it somehow. And then last $5, you can spend it however you want to spend it. If you decide to continue to do it safe. Now, that's my 15 on Friday. On the same Friday, his mom sends him 15. I don't regulate that. I just regulate the 15 that I send. So if we're doing that, he's learning that now. Something it took me till my 40s to understand. [00:16:28] Speaker C: I'm telling you, I'm telling you. [00:16:30] Speaker D: He knows that at 13, if he continues to do this at 13, which he has continued to do for the last two years, the boy got money in his little cash app. Every time he want to, he said, I'm about to buy these sneakers. I'm like, how much are they? $140. I be like, where you get $140 from? [00:16:45] Speaker C: And you got adults that can't even get $40 shoes. [00:16:49] Speaker D: And so he. But it was because I told him about the process of it, more so than going, hey, like, telling him everything. Like, yo, you gotta do this, and you gotta get a hundred dollars, and you gotta. You know, it's about learning just little bits along the way that's gonna help him in his processing. [00:17:05] Speaker A: Hey, man, yousef, you hit it on the head, man. You just unlocked a memory for me. Like, when we would have money growing up, it was like, man, oh, don't let that money Burn a hole in your pocket. [00:17:18] Speaker C: That's the saying. I be like, yo, like, okay, like. [00:17:20] Speaker A: I get what you saying, but tell me what I can do with my money then. [00:17:24] Speaker D: Y. [00:17:24] Speaker C: Cause what you think I'm about to do? [00:17:25] Speaker A: Like, hey, you ain't quick to get it for me, so, like, man, if you can, let me know how I can do, like, how you did, man. [00:17:34] Speaker D: And it also changes how they spend, man. [00:17:37] Speaker A: Listen. [00:17:38] Speaker D: Hey, Dak, man, let's go to Wendy's. All right? You paying. [00:17:41] Speaker C: I ain't lying, man. Y' all both. That was very valuable, what y' all just dropped, man. And to y' all point, it's just. [00:17:50] Speaker A: I. [00:17:50] Speaker C: As a young man, I feel like that I'm glad to hear that somebody's doing it, because I feel like we start behind the curve ball so much. As young black males, we start behind. And, like, it's very hard for anybody to ever understand us. Cause, for one, ain't nobody coming to save you. And we understand that. We know that. We're taught that at an early age, nobody's coming to save you but the people that has the knowledge. At some point, y' all gotta be willing to give the knowledge back. And as parents, you know, the fact that parents. I think we're the first teachers. Parents are the first teachers. So at the end of the day, we can't expect the school to teach them certain stuff. Because at the end of the day, if. I always say that if the lion teaches the gazelle how to get away, he might not eat. So therefore, if they teach us everything that we need to know, then they ain't got no slaves, they ain't got no workers. So we got to do this ourselves and empower our own community. So, man, it's. It's a blessing to even hear y' all speaking like that, man. [00:18:46] Speaker D: Appreciate it. I just think that. [00:18:48] Speaker B: Yeah, that was. Yeah, that was. [00:18:49] Speaker D: And a part of it, too, is. See, I know for me, my dad being who he was, he ain't teach me a damn thing. He teach me nothing. So everything I have is from, like, me literally learning and messing up trial and error all along the way. So if I got kids, I treat. Same thing I do for my son, I've done for my daughter. She's 21. I ain't had to pay a college bill yet. My other one's 20. I ain't had to pay a college bill yet. My 18 year old, she's in college. I have yet to pay a college bill because they did everything they were supposed to do. And they've been saving their money. Bless you know what I'm saying? So it's a thing where, if. If I've been a failure for the majority of my life, as I see it, how am I going to continue? How do I think, how can I not give what I've learned in my failure to my kids for them to make different failures, but be well more equipped to deal with the failure. [00:19:49] Speaker A: Respond better. Respond better. [00:19:51] Speaker D: They can respond. They're well more equipped. If they lose $200, it's I. Because they got a thousand in the bank. There was points. If I lost $2, I wasn't eating for a week. [00:20:04] Speaker A: Hey, that's fact. [00:20:05] Speaker C: I'm telling you, it's real. [00:20:08] Speaker D: It's just a matter of continuously setting up. Continuously setting up people to be better than you were. That's just all it is. And that's your kids. That. What are you leaving here with them when you're gone? How are they supposed to cope? Like if you do everything. So I heard the food, the most foolish thing. Somebody said, if you got a daughter, take her out of town, Treat her like this, treat her like that. And I'm like, so you're setting the bar up here. So she's looking for you and every man. And that's not possible. [00:20:41] Speaker A: That's not possible. [00:20:41] Speaker B: Yeah, I agree. [00:20:42] Speaker A: It's a difference of relationship. The difference in the relationship, the dynamics. [00:20:46] Speaker D: Yeah. No, I don't want nobody to have to do for my. So now. So now you're. You're creating this woman who is going to now because you're taking her out the country into these fancy restaurants. To expect that from a man who might. Can't give her that, but his best is all he can give. And she'll never find you in him. [00:21:06] Speaker A: Yeah. The dynamic will completely change. [00:21:08] Speaker C: That's tough. Yeah, that's tough. Cause I was on the lines of thinking that first way. Not no flying out the country, but having her having my daughter believe something, you know, Is she not gonna find me? [00:21:20] Speaker D: You can set a standard without her romanticizing you. You see what I'm saying right there, boy? A lot of times, a lot of times dads romanticize themselves to their daughters. And you can't. Because now she's gonna look for you in every man. And that is impossible. There's not another man on this planet's gonna love her the way you do. It's just not possible. [00:21:44] Speaker A: That's a fact. [00:21:45] Speaker B: Hey, I got a question though, youself. Like, so what, what, what is best though? You Know what I'm saying? Like, say, for instance, it's V Day weekend coming up, man. And basically, you know, of course I'm gonna do something for the wife, but also do something for my daughter too, as well. Is. Will you consider that is setting her up? [00:22:05] Speaker D: No, I think that's setting her up for her ex. Her own expectations for what she wants on this. Yo, my. My dad used to. And I'm not talking about, like, getting your daughter some flowers, right? [00:22:14] Speaker C: We're talking about, like the extreme. Extreme. [00:22:18] Speaker B: What is Stream. [00:22:19] Speaker C: Like, somebody was flying out the country podcast. [00:22:22] Speaker D: Like, they was like. He was like, yeah, man. My daughter, I'm gonna make sure that she expects, like. Like, when she go out the country. This ain't the first time she been out the country. Well, if you taking family trips, that don't gotta be the first time she go out the country. [00:22:31] Speaker B: Yeah, right, right. [00:22:32] Speaker D: You feel what I'm saying? So it's ways to do things as a parent with your child, with your daughter as a dad. Because I think it's different for boys and their mom. But as a dad, you have to be careful how your relationship, how you build your daughter up within this society that we live in where she now romanticizes you or the idea of you. My ex fiance, her dad romanticized himself to her. And it's not anything he did on purpose. There wasn't no, what I call it, pedophile type deal. [00:23:05] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah. [00:23:06] Speaker D: It's just. It's just, hey, you know, I want you to get this. I want you to have this. I want you. So the majority of our engagement was me trying to live up to this man that I could never live up to because I wasn't raised the same way you were. Like, I think her dad was a jazz musician named. Was Skip Pearson. And he would. If she was in. Let's say he was in Charleston and she was in Virginia and she had a flat tire. She called him. He would drive from Charleston to Virginia, and she would wait for him there for him to come change her tire. [00:23:39] Speaker A: Huh? [00:23:40] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:23:41] Speaker D: You said, I was in Columbia at a job thing. She got a flat tire. I said, we got aaa. I'm gonna call aaa. He. He gonna come pick you up. She was pissed with me because I didn't leave my event to come and get her. And the first thing she said was, my daddy would have done it. Well, I ain't your daddy. [00:23:58] Speaker C: Go be with your daddy. [00:23:59] Speaker B: I ain't even gonna lie, man. I got a homeboy that just recently got a divorce, man. Cause his Wife, her dad was a lawyer, big time lawyer, where they was from. And I mean, he was big time. And basically like every time he used to come home, like, you know, he had like a little hookah. He was telling the story, man. He had a hookah on the table. And she was like, you know, cleaning up my, you know, my daddy coming, coming here. He said, so your daddy coming in my house, you know what I'm saying? But like, like, I can leave my hookah on the table. And I ain't gonna lie, that made me thought about what, what Yusef was talking about, man. Cause I ain't really realize it that, you know, she did exact same thing with her dad and expected her husband to be like, be her dad. And is that a bad thing though? [00:24:52] Speaker C: Okay, let's go and clarify something. Cause we know people will listen to this and they'll take this the wrong way. [00:24:56] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:56] Speaker C: What we're saying is it's okay to do for your child, but let's try to keep it reasonable. Like, you know, on Valentine's Day, you go do something with your daughter. Okay, Cool. Everybody ain't flying her out the country. Everybody ain't about to come from Columbia and go to Virginia and change a tire. Let's give her a real life realistic expectation. I'm not saying she should lower her standards. But if you expecting a man to leave Columbia from his job, to go wherever you at to change your tire and he telling you we got aaa, I'm sorry, go be with your daddy. Be with your daddy. [00:25:30] Speaker D: And I think that that's what we're saying. You can take your daughter out to eat, right, To a restaurant and teach her. Okay, well, this is this fork. This is that fork. This is the salad fork. You know, you're going to get an entree. You could, hey, you, you can get an appetizer. And she knows the terminology and she knows what she likes and what she dislikes because you've taken her to different restaurants. So now when she's asked on a date and somebody says, well, what do you like? She can go from the references of going out with you. What I want, I like a good medium steak. She knows how to speak in the terminology that's teaching her. And then. So if she's messing with a dude who don't know the terminology, she go, well, this is just, this is bare minimum. You know what I'm saying? This is just. Okay, that's setting a standard. A man needs to know how to order food, how to order. You know how to order. [00:26:16] Speaker A: Hold on, hold on, hold on. [00:26:17] Speaker C: I got a kickback for that. Now, what if he's a good man, but he just hasn't been exposed to the stuff that you. [00:26:25] Speaker D: But that's through conversation. There's nothing wrong with that. [00:26:28] Speaker C: So I'm saying, like, is it for most females? Is that. Is that a. Is that a no turn off? [00:26:32] Speaker D: No, but that's a conversation for me to have with my daughter. Cause I need her to understand that every man she meets is not gonna be as educated as she is in different fields. [00:26:40] Speaker B: Right, right, right. I agree. [00:26:42] Speaker D: You know what I'm saying? My daughter. I remember my daughter was a freshman at George Mason. And she said to me, I went to pick her up and she said, daddy, you spoiled me. I said, when did I spoil you? I ain't never spoil you a day in your life. She was like, no, I can't date no man that's shorter than six foot. I said, why? I said, I'm shorter than six foot. So why? She was like, I always been around your basketball teams. Cause she. I've been coaching basketball since she been a baby. She said, all your players are always six foot. I can't be with no. I just don't see myself with no guy that ain't that tall. Because that's all I've ever been around. And so I had to. And then that's what kind of makes you think about stuff as you go. Something as little as her just being everywhere with me since a baby with these basketball teams made her see her outlook on that affected how she. Few men that were attracted. [00:27:31] Speaker A: Something as small as that. [00:27:33] Speaker D: Something as small as that. [00:27:34] Speaker A: That's small, man. [00:27:37] Speaker D: We're not in minuscule. And that's me being unintentional. [00:27:40] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:27:40] Speaker A: You ain't got nothing to do with that? [00:27:41] Speaker D: I ain't got nothing to do with that. [00:27:42] Speaker C: You probably ain't even thinking like that. Ever registered in your mind. [00:27:46] Speaker D: That never registered until she said it to me. And she's like, this is really nice, boy. He's cool. But Daddy, he your height. [00:27:53] Speaker C: I just can't. [00:27:54] Speaker D: And my daughter's running. [00:27:55] Speaker B: That's a no. That's a no for me. [00:27:58] Speaker A: That's tough right there. [00:27:59] Speaker B: I don't think nothing wrong with that. [00:28:00] Speaker C: No, no. [00:28:00] Speaker D: But there's nothing wrong with. [00:28:02] Speaker B: Everybody got their little preference. [00:28:03] Speaker C: Everybody got their preference. There's nothing wrong but, like, well, that's tough. Like, to be a good guy. To be a good guy and offer like, what she would like in the male. For the most part, it's Just your height requirement ain't right, bro. That's tough. [00:28:15] Speaker A: But I ain't gonna lie. I'm thankful. Like, I ain't short, though. I ain't gonna lie. [00:28:19] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:28:20] Speaker A: Not that anything wrong. I'm just glad I'm not. [00:28:21] Speaker C: I'm not. [00:28:22] Speaker D: But here's the thing. [00:28:22] Speaker C: Be real. That's true. [00:28:23] Speaker D: You can only swim in the pool where you invited to. [00:28:26] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:28:27] Speaker A: Hey, hey. [00:28:28] Speaker B: But you know what that made me think about people that in different demographics. Like Arizona, for instance. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. I'm gonna say Arizona, they got mostly, you know, let's use Colorado white people, you know what I'm saying? And they skinny, you know what I'm saying? Then they come and move to South Carolina and be like, hey, they're amongst the trees, man. [00:28:49] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah. [00:28:50] Speaker B: Nothing around here. And they, you know, too many black people around here. You know, I'm talking about black guy feeling this way now. But he was raised up in Colorado and you know what I'm saying? And he come down here and it just ain't it for him. I mean, that's what I kind of relate that to. [00:29:07] Speaker C: Cause sometimes people see what you mean. [00:29:09] Speaker B: Sometimes people just used to what you're used to what you used to. Yeah, for real. [00:29:13] Speaker D: But we have to be. But that's why we have to teach our kids that that's okay. Like, it's okay for that to be your thing. [00:29:21] Speaker A: Everybody got a preference. [00:29:22] Speaker D: Everybody has a preference. And sometimes. Cause not only do I have to teach my. We have to teach our kids how to set their standards and set their bar. We also have to help them understand that sometimes we're not good enough for the person. That there's certain aspects of us that are just not good. Sometimes, like basketball. Sometimes you're just not as good as the dudes that are playing. [00:29:44] Speaker A: Hey, Yousef, you said something major, man. You said something major. And one thing my therapist said, man, he was like, man, oftentimes we want to make sure somebody is right for us, but we gotta make sure we right for that person, too. We can't be thinking like, you can't always be, oh, man, she ain't right for me. She. Bro, are you that person for them? [00:30:04] Speaker D: On my podcast, I say this all the time on my podcast. Be what you trying to attract. [00:30:10] Speaker A: That's facts. [00:30:12] Speaker D: You can't want no slim body. Whatever it is. You can, but you can't expect it. [00:30:18] Speaker C: If you ain't expecting about how you sound when you say, say that. Like, oh, man, but that's that's something that men do bad. Men do that bad. [00:30:26] Speaker D: I'm not in the gym. [00:30:27] Speaker C: How. [00:30:27] Speaker D: How am I looking for somebody in the gym if I ain't in the gym? [00:30:30] Speaker C: I ain't lying, right? We do that bad. [00:30:32] Speaker D: I'm not. How can I expect. What is my expectation in that point? You get what you are. How you supposed to get a woman with money if you ain't got nothing? You can't go to the places where. [00:30:41] Speaker C: She go, man, hold up, hold up, hold up. That's like, I seen the video. Yo, they had this girl and she was like, dude, try to talk to the girl. And she was like, mm, mm. You don't make enough of me. Nah, nah, you. You broke. He said, how much you make a year? She said, dang, none of your business. Said, where you work at? She said, McDonald's. Like, girl, yeah. How you gonna have a standard like that? [00:31:02] Speaker A: And you can. You saying so? Yeah, you. [00:31:04] Speaker C: You can't. You can't meet. So I get what you say. [00:31:07] Speaker D: It goes both ways. [00:31:07] Speaker C: Yeah, you gotta be able to meet it. [00:31:09] Speaker D: I'm not only saying it from men to woman, from men from man to woman. I'm saying for women too. [00:31:13] Speaker C: Oh, yeah, women. [00:31:14] Speaker D: Cause I want this big buff dude. But you, you sit around eating in. [00:31:18] Speaker C: Your movie all day, four, five kids. [00:31:20] Speaker D: You know what I'm saying? Oh, I don't want nobody who got multiple baby. Baby mamas. But you got. You got three baby daddies and daddy. [00:31:26] Speaker C: And you know what? We live in a culture now that has made it wrong to have standards and have preferences. For men to have standards and preferences. Women can say all day, I don't want a man that work a 9 to 5. I don't want a man that this. That they can have their list drawn out. Have you too short. [00:31:43] Speaker A: Like you said was saying, you can't control that. [00:31:45] Speaker C: You can't control that. And you know what women would do? They would get under their post, sis, I feel you, sis. You ate. You ate. Soon as a man say something about his size preference for a woman or any preference that he has for a woman. If it's a size thing, he body shaming. If it's anything else, it's coming from a negative perspective. So we have to understand also, like, people got the choice to have a preference. That's our. Whatever your thing is, is your thing. And nobody can blame you for having your thing. It's okay. Everybody got their thing. So. Yeah, I'm sorry I went on a tangent like that. Cause that blows me that blow me, bro. [00:32:17] Speaker D: But people don't understand that we're out here. You're out here setting these expectations for what you want. Or you're chasing something you want and you're not what you're chasing. [00:32:26] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's big time. [00:32:28] Speaker D: You know, the bait. You are, the bait that you're trying to use to attract whatever it is that you want to attract. [00:32:33] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:32:34] Speaker A: When you're through that. [00:32:35] Speaker D: When you're through that part, like you. [00:32:38] Speaker A: You. [00:32:38] Speaker D: You haven't even. You haven't even stood. You haven't even stood and invested in yourself enough to get what you want. Because you can't get what you want unless you invest in you, man. [00:32:46] Speaker C: It's like they ask you in finances, how much skin you got in the game. That's like going to a bank saying, hey, man, you know, I want to get this house right here, this house, 400,000. Well, how much skin you got in the game? Well, I ain't got no money saved up, bro. [00:32:58] Speaker A: You. [00:32:58] Speaker C: Man, that's tough. [00:32:59] Speaker B: It is tough. [00:33:00] Speaker D: Listen, went to the car dealership. I got in a car accident. I thank the Lord I had Gap coverage. Gap is the best thing. [00:33:08] Speaker C: And most people don't even know about that. We just found out about Gap Insurance. [00:33:11] Speaker D: Oh, man, Gap's the best thing ever. I had it on my last two cars. Take care of that bill for me. Let me get this new car. It went ahead. And I didn't even have to wait for the Gap to come through. Cause I called my boy, Be Easy. He worked down at the dealership. I said, hey, man, I need a whip. My car just got. They just totaled it out. Gap gonna cover it. He said, yo, you got two grand? I could put you in. Damn. Everything. Anything you want for 2000, I got. [00:33:36] Speaker C: You got to have some skin in the game. [00:33:40] Speaker D: There you go. Because you have to have that stuff set up for yourself. Cause you'll never know when the stuff is or what you say. Gotta have skin in the game. If you wanna come, if you wanna join the party, you gotta have money to get in the party. [00:33:52] Speaker A: Yeah. I ain't like, you gotta bring something to it. [00:33:54] Speaker D: You gotta bring something to it. [00:33:55] Speaker A: That's one thing my dad said, too, man. Like, it's a difference between, hey, man, I come to B. Hey, man, B, I need 300, man. How much you got already? Man, I ain't got nothing. You want me to put a whole 300? [00:34:07] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:07] Speaker D: You ain't got nothing. [00:34:09] Speaker C: You ain't prepared at all. You ain't worried about what kind of. [00:34:12] Speaker A: Tight you putting by not bringing nothing to the party? You want me to just give you straight 300? You want me to give me everything you need. Now if you got me, I got 1 50, I got 200, man, all I gotta do is give you 100. You'll be much quicker to give me a hundred dollars than a whole 300. [00:34:27] Speaker C: Cause I'm gonna tell you boy, you start asking for 300, well, I gotta ask you some questions. [00:34:30] Speaker A: Yeah, like. [00:34:31] Speaker C: And most people gonna get mad when I start asking them questions, but. Cause I'm like this bro, and I gotta be real. I don't mind allowing somebody to borrow something because my cousin always told me, don't let nobody borrow if you can't afford to lose. So I'm already understanding when I let you borrow this, I might not be able to get it back. But if you are a repeat borrower, what I'm about to ask you next is really going to make you mad. You're going to probably tell me, don't even worry about it. I'm going to say, hey, what are you doing with your money that makes you have to be in this situation all the time? Let's get your finances, let's try to learn about finances so you ain't got to keep on coming back to me. Real life people get mad with that. But bro, that's the most help that I could ever possibly give you to. [00:35:11] Speaker A: Try to give you a hand up instead of a handout, right. [00:35:13] Speaker C: I'm trying to put you on game, trying to teach you so you don't have to keep on being in this predicament. Cuz as a man, you. I don't want to come to you and ask you for nothing. And if I have, don't make me. [00:35:21] Speaker A: Feel good to keep ask for it, right? [00:35:22] Speaker C: And if I, if you got to keep on doing it, bro, let's talk about your financ. If you felt comfortable enough to ask me for the money, let's have, let's feel comfortable enough to have this real discussion, bro. And it ain't trying to play you, cuz I would never do that in front of nobody. None of that. But just between me and you, let. Hey, what your finance look like? What you doing? [00:35:37] Speaker B: Yeah, what you got? [00:35:38] Speaker C: Can you cut back on this? [00:35:40] Speaker D: I just ain't never been that person, so I don't understand them people. [00:35:44] Speaker B: Yeah, it's tough somebody borrow money. [00:35:46] Speaker D: Yeah, like I, I could never. Like, I'm not saying like me personally, I don't need nobody hanging nothing over My head. [00:35:53] Speaker A: I ain't lying. [00:35:55] Speaker D: I only. I don't. I don't like owning people. I don't like. I just don't. I can't stand it. [00:35:59] Speaker A: That thing's sickening, bro. [00:36:01] Speaker D: But to wake up in the morning to be like, I owe this got 200. I just. So how do you fix your lips if I ask you once? I don't know how I fix my lips to ask you again before I even paid you from the first time. [00:36:14] Speaker B: Because I know people who borrow money and forget that they owe you money. [00:36:18] Speaker C: They don't forget. [00:36:19] Speaker A: Oh, they don't forget. [00:36:21] Speaker C: They just hoping you don't say nothing about it. I ain't forgot, though. [00:36:24] Speaker B: But, man, you ever forgot you owe somebody some money. I ain't never forgot. [00:36:28] Speaker C: Cause you know why? I ain't never forget? [00:36:30] Speaker D: No. I'm going to tell you my favorite person. My favorite person. Person that borrowed money from you. And then they steady talk about what they done done. [00:36:38] Speaker C: Oh, that they done went outside. [00:36:42] Speaker A: Hey, I bet. Hey, I get up under your post. [00:36:45] Speaker C: How about ready to get ignorant with it? I ain't gonna even lie to you. [00:36:48] Speaker B: What about little situation with that. What her name is? The rapper? Yeah. [00:36:53] Speaker A: Talking about Gorilla. Gorilla? [00:36:54] Speaker B: Yeah, Gorilla. Her sister. [00:36:55] Speaker A: But you she exploiting Gorilla. Cause, like, she got a whole little thing now where she like, oh, man, I need 12. I'mma just at number 12,000 for an interview. Oh, I'm doing 5,000 for a walkthrough in your club. Oh. You know what I'm saying? She giving out prices for her to be seen just based off what she did. You know what I'm saying? [00:37:19] Speaker C: That ain't good that you will blast your family like that. But, bruh, if the market is there and you can make a little bit of money, hey, I'm gonna be real. Get that bag, bro. [00:37:29] Speaker B: But the thing is going back to what Yousef said, I think, dad. What a rapper that's locked up, man. That shot on Megan Thee Stallion. Tory Lanez sent Gorilla sister some money. And then, like the other day, she was just on there just flashing the money. I think it was $2,500, man. She had that thing spread out like. You know what I'm saying? Doing this right? [00:37:52] Speaker A: Honestly, there ain't no money, man. [00:37:54] Speaker B: Hey, yo, I was saying in relation. [00:37:56] Speaker D: No, it's not. [00:37:58] Speaker B: No, no, it ain't no money. But it's the fact that, you know, she. You know, she borrowing the money and then doing that with it. Yeah, boy, this social media got people messing. [00:38:08] Speaker C: Let me clarify what I just said she should have never blasted her family. But if. But now that she has the spotlight, if you can capitalize on the spotlight. Okay, cool. Don't blast your people. That ain't what I'm saying. I know. [00:38:19] Speaker A: I feel what you're saying on that, but the way social media set up now, dog, you can do anything to make some money. [00:38:25] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's crazy. [00:38:26] Speaker A: It's a money grab. [00:38:28] Speaker B: I'm talking about ignorant stuff. [00:38:30] Speaker A: It's a money grind. And, like, man, my brother was talking about this. Like, man, you selling your soul, essentially. You selling your. [00:38:36] Speaker C: You selling your soul, bro. I know y' all saw it. Bud Crawford. Terrence Crawford. [00:38:41] Speaker B: Yeah. Terrence Crawford. [00:38:42] Speaker C: Talk about it, Q, bruh. Dude said, I think his name Channing something. [00:38:47] Speaker A: Channing, not Fry, but Buddy from the Pivot podcast. [00:38:49] Speaker B: No, that's just Pivot. [00:38:51] Speaker D: Channing Crowder. [00:38:52] Speaker C: Channing Crowder. [00:38:53] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:38:53] Speaker C: So Channing Crowder asked the guy. He was like. He asked, boy, he was like, you know, it ain't no price that they could pay you to get back in the ring. He said, what did they offer you, 100 million? He said, nah. Cause it's like selling your soul, he said. Shannon Crowder said, For 100 million, you can have my soul. He said, and now we know your character. We know what type of person you are. And when he said that, if you. [00:39:14] Speaker D: Really watch, Buddy, yo, Shannon Crowder face changed. [00:39:16] Speaker C: His face changed because he looked dumb. You thought Bud was about to laugh with you, and you thought it was funny. But, bro, to your point, bro, selling your soul. [00:39:24] Speaker B: He could beat him. [00:39:28] Speaker C: So you can't get mad and really buck on him. Yeah, you definitely can't buck on him. [00:39:33] Speaker D: But, man, when you really had to. [00:39:34] Speaker B: Take your mind in. [00:39:35] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:39:35] Speaker C: When you really think about it, bro, selling your soul. Like, everybody always be thinking this, like this, doing a ritual, bro, I look at selling your soul like this. Anything that you doing against your principles and your morals. Exactly. You selling your soul, bro. So that social media, man, it's a bunch. Like you said, it's a bunch of ways to go. To go viral, to get you some money. But, bro, what does it profit a man to gain the world and lose his soul, bro? So that I really be keeping my integrity. [00:40:01] Speaker A: Though that's one thing my granddad said, too, man, everybody got a price, and it ain't money, dog. Man, hey, man, they're dumb. You out for a carton of cigarettes, and, you know, for a pack of cigarettes. [00:40:11] Speaker B: Oh, yeah. [00:40:11] Speaker A: Q did it. [00:40:12] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:40:13] Speaker A: Was a pack of cigarettes. And a piece of pizza, man, that. [00:40:16] Speaker C: About like when them boys getting, like, they get in the interrogation room, man. I done seen it the hardest, people. I ain't got nothing to say. I ain't got nothing to say. They slide it on that table. But they take on when they take the arm out that. On when they take the arm out that shirt. He about to tell everything. [00:40:33] Speaker A: Start leaning forward like this right here. Oh, man. [00:40:35] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:40:36] Speaker C: When they run their head through their head, like, I wan't gonna say nothing. [00:40:39] Speaker B: But dang, let me. [00:40:40] Speaker C: Yeah, yeah, that's a fact. [00:40:42] Speaker A: But that's exactly how it is, man. Hey, did y' all see? Did y' all see? I'm gonna kind of switch it up a little bit, man. The people at Nike, you know, the white people at Nike, they sue. [00:40:51] Speaker C: Oh, God, yes. [00:40:53] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? For the DEI little program that they got. They saying they been discriminated against and oppressed. Wow. You understand how wild that is, man? To like, you created this system and then you wanna turn around and profit off of it. Like, that's another level of, you know, insanity. Crazy. Yeah, you, like, come on, man. Like, you are the people that came up with this whole construct. And for you to sit here and try and benefit from it, you know, that kind of stuff, man, is just. [00:41:32] Speaker B: Let's see how far they can get with it. [00:41:33] Speaker C: You know, it's funny. It's funny. [00:41:35] Speaker B: It'll be interesting. [00:41:36] Speaker A: It's funny. And it's people who's in support of this stuff. And like, man, your biggest contributors to it are black people. You know what I'm saying? I got a pair of Nikes on. I think Yusuf got a pair of Nikes on. And you sit here and say, oh, man, we have been oppressed by the DEI program. And when in fact, you're the ones that's the biggest, you know what I'm saying? Benefactors of it. Anyway, so, man, that right there, that kind of stuff. And even though Black History Month, that. You know what I'm saying? And it just. Well, not just what happens. Cause I believe a lot of things happen with Black History Month just for it to not be so out there. Cause even like. Even more like. And I ain't saying, like, this is a bad thing to cover anything like that, but the host from the morning show or something like that, Savannah Gunthery or something like that, her mom, you know, got kidnapped or whatever. And like, they making this whole big. [00:42:35] Speaker B: Spectacle about it on the news. Yeah. [00:42:37] Speaker A: You know what I mean? And I always think, man, like it's other stuff that we can focus on rather than, you know, the plight of, you know, other people. That's just how I feel about that. [00:42:54] Speaker C: Even with podcasting and all these things that we do nowadays, the people that goes the most viral, the people that get the biggest are people that focus on like other people's stuff. Like how we've been sitting up here talking about positive things that kind of like, you know, that we could, you know, we could get into and all of that, man. The people that like he said that get the most views the most. If we was up here talking about drama, like, we'll probably take off, but nobody really. And a lot of times don't want to really hear what we're talking about. [00:43:27] Speaker A: Yeah, drama sales. [00:43:28] Speaker B: Yeah, drama sales, man. Well, you know what it is, guy, man, this engineer, same engineer I was talking to about the patent. Me and him was talking about black people. The reason why we in the position that we in, you know what I'm saying? Because we too forgiving. He said we too forgiving. And he said, by the way, he a black guy, he was saying that we too forgiving and we want to see the world, all us come together, you know what I'm saying? As one something that Martin Luther King wanted unity, you know what I'm saying? And his opinion, he just feel like that reason why other cultures, ethnicity thrives in doing what they doing is because they focus on them, you know what I'm saying? Within the community. Like the Mexicans. Yeah, yeah. Self preservation. Yeah, self preservation. So, you know, and when I think about it, man, we. And I did a deep dive on it. I feel like we do though, you know what I'm saying? But we. So we had a place now that and going back to what we was talking about earlier, we in a place now. The reason why information don't get passed around in our community is because we want to hold on to it and we don't want the next person to do better than us, you know what I'm saying? We got self hatred of ourselves most of the time, you know what I'm saying? And we want to be the one who be the highlight of everything, you know. And it's kind of hard to get everybody, you know, in the community, I think, you know, I put in a group chat and you know what I'm saying? And I believe most everybody said I'm just wanting to focus on myself, my family, you know what I'm saying? I think, you know, I think that's good. But overall you know, I think, you know, one person being successful, one family being successful, it just ain't gonna move what we trying to do. [00:45:26] Speaker C: Yeah, don't push the needle forward. I gotta go on what you just said just now. You said something. You were like, we got this mindset of us and our people, man. I think it comes from a scarcity mindset, man. They make us feel like the resources are so few. Once we get it, we feel like if somebody else get it, it's taking food out of our mouth. So in a way, I don't know if it's really self hate, but I know that if I bring a plate of food in here, one plate of food, it's restaurants all around this place. But if I bring one plate of food in here, everybody gonna try to get that one plate. Cause we feel like it ain't no more food to be gotten. When we could really open our minds and understand, like, yo, just because B got some food, I could just walk out of here and get a plate from somewhere else. We don't have to think that that's the only plate that was ever created. But I think they make us feel like the resources are so small that once I get it, I got to take what I got and go to my corner with it. So, you know, I think that's what they do to it. [00:46:26] Speaker B: Tupac said it, though. I watched an old Tupac video. He was. He was talking to a interviewer and he was saying that, you know, y' all keep the doors locked. He said, by the time he said, I'm gonna knock on the door and you open the door and I see all the food in there, I'm looking like, you know, can I get some of that? And then you shut the door in me. And then the next day, I come and knock on the door. Each time I knock on the door, I'm gonna get aggressive and aggressive. And now I'm picking the locks, pulling out the Glock, you know what I'm saying? And that's really what be going on in our inner cities, you know, most of the time. Because the scarcity, that ain't much. [00:47:03] Speaker A: That's perfect. And just a few things, man. First of what you said about us being so forgiving. I believe too black is an experience, no doubt. But it's a lot of learned behaviors. It's a lot of learned behaviors. And in our truest form and our truest nature, we're not violent people. Yeah, we're not violent people. Those things are learned or circumstances are created. Like, you Just said for us to become that way, and then they make it seem like that's who we are. Because in actuality, there are some people who've never experienced a black person beyond what they see on the TV screen or on a movie screen or the stereotype of what it is. I've had people who've come to get their green card. They told me what they do is show a video of the type of people to avoid when they get to America. And we're those type of people. [00:48:02] Speaker C: Oh, wow. [00:48:03] Speaker A: And they show the worst of us. They don't show the best of us. They show the worst of us. So they come with the propaganda and the stereotypes already. So do I blame the people? No. Do I blame the system? Yes. So it's always within our best interest. You know, people say, oh, man, I ain't worried about what nobody say about me or who they think I am. That's not the point. It's who somebody else sees you as. So even if they don't necessarily change their thought process, they can't sit here and say, oh, man, you just like the person I saw in that video. You know what I mean? So that's something that's important. And to touch on what you said about the food, man, Coach Page man said something so great, man. Best African American history teacher I ever had. You know what I'm saying? He said, if you go down the bread aisle or the sugar aisle, look at how many different brands of bread and sugar it is. Do you think they really worried about, oh, man, Q got his own bread. I can't sell bread, man. Q already got bread. And they. We already got bread. I can't sell bread. No, you can still, you know, get your piece of the pie, because everybody's gonna have their preference already. So that's another thing that we must, like, get out of our mind is that just because somebody doing one thing that is not room for somebody else to do that as well. And being supportive of all things that are. Are that touches us in a certain type of way. Cause, I mean, I'm gonna be real. Just because you black, that don't mean I'm gonna support you, dog. You know what I'm saying? And that's what we get hung up at, you know, like, I'm gonna say, like, going to the mall, the guys that do the shoe cleaners. Yeah, dog, they will press you, bro. They will press you. And they pressed me one time. They say, man, man, you wanna do the white man? Like that? I said, yeah, the white man don't heckle me or make me feel, you know what I'm saying, that kind of way. I gotta buy something. He's not gonna do that. If I say I'm not interested, I'm not interested. [00:50:15] Speaker C: Thank you. Have a nice day. [00:50:16] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? And it might just be that day. I might come back again and say, hey, man, yeah, let me go ahead and buy from you. But we have to get out of that mind frame just because, like, you're black. All skin folk ain't kin folk. All skin folk ain't kin folk. So just like, what's the senator from South Carolina? Black dude, man. [00:50:36] Speaker C: I know. [00:50:36] Speaker A: It's Tim Scott. [00:50:38] Speaker C: Yeah, Tim Scott. [00:50:39] Speaker A: He black, bro. That man, Donald Trump be patting that man on the head, and he just be smiling like a dog on gopher. [00:50:46] Speaker C: Like a good houseboy, you know what I'm saying? [00:50:48] Speaker A: And he ain't getting nothing, man. He's like. He's totally forgotten. [00:50:51] Speaker B: Get that pat in on the back. [00:50:53] Speaker A: Though, until it's time for him to get recirculated again, get reassurance. He be right back in the back, you know what I'm saying? Smiling from ear to ear, you know what I'm saying? But, man, that's all I gotta say. Hey, go ahead, man. [00:51:04] Speaker B: Hey, no, no, I was getting ready. No, I want you to go ahead and close out, man. And, you know. [00:51:10] Speaker A: Oh, man. Hey, if you don't mind. Come here, man. Come here, son. Hey, y', all, this is my son right here, man. Hey, this is the biggest part of me right here message. This is the biggest part of me, man. I'm proud of my son, y'. All. Second grade reading on the fifth grade level, y'. [00:51:25] Speaker C: All. Shout out to y', all. [00:51:27] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? And a lot of times, black men, we don't get the. The recognition that we deserve or we have the stereotype that we don't take care of our kids, man. And, man, I'm just living proof, man. B's living proof. Yousef's living proof, man, that we out here. We out here, man, and we. We deserve our portion. I don't know if you got kids. [00:51:47] Speaker C: Nah, I ain't got no. [00:51:48] Speaker A: I ain't got you know what I'm saying? But I ain't never worry about you if you. Whenever you do decide, if you don't decide, that doesn't matter, like, if you're, like, a real man or not. But most definitely, we was in Walmart today. Saw. Saw an older guy, he was like, man, you got your son, man. He said, you got a good dad, man. I'm so proud. My boy said, yeah. Say, man, you better not put me in no home. Most definitely, man, because the level of sacrifice. I think all three of us can talk about the level of sacrifice that it takes. And, like, I'm just getting started. I'm just getting started. I'm hearing Yusef talk, B talk, man. Like, I've only begun to scratch the surface of this thing. So, like I told B one time, I saw him at the fitness center, man, I want to learn from. From men like this that. Who have healthy relationships, like, within their. Their marriage or relationships with. With their kids, whatever the case is. And one last thing specifically, you can. You want to go. You want to go back over there? Are you chilling? You okay, then? All right, man. Heal to Feel. Be on the lookout for more from Heal to Feel. And I was talking to Bill about this earlier. I kind of strayed away from it just based off, you know, something I had to get away from. But, man, we still here, and black men specifically, man, we have to be more available to ourselves and to each other. Oftentimes we feel like we're alone and that nobody cares about us or sees us or understands us. But talking to people like Brandon, man, him introducing me to Q, me and Yusuf a couple months back, man, we're out here, and we don't want each other to fail and fall. So even if we have a problem with trusting others with vulnerable information, I always say, man, start small. You don't have to start big with what you tell people, as long as you open your mouth and tell people that, hey, this is what I'm kind of struggling with right now. Do you know anybody? Do you know any resources that can maybe help me in this space that I'm in? So it's just important for a black man to come together. And like I said at the beginning, oh, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity. Iron sharpens iron, and those are the type of men that we should have around us. So be on the lookout for Heal the Field. We got a men support group coming that's going to be meeting monthly. We're going to do more podcasts. We're going to start our podcast back up, man. My son, man, he's. He's my biggest critic, man. Daddy, man, you know, you stopped doing the podcast. Maybe we're going to start that. So. So, man, so be on the lookout, man. I've made my decision. I've made my choice to, you know, go forward in this thing and man, I'm. I got faith that God is going to lead it every step of the way. So, man, man, be on the lookout. Brandon Q. Thank y' all so much, man. [00:54:43] Speaker C: Anytime. [00:54:43] Speaker A: Anytime y' all need me, man. Hey man, I'm here like it's no questions asked, no questions asked. [00:54:49] Speaker C: Appreciate it. [00:54:50] Speaker A: So don't, don't and I. Look, I ain't like Goldila sister, ain't no fee. I ain't charging no fee for it. So man, we appreciate y' all. The King Me podcast, man. I appreciate y' all for having me on, B. We still gonna get you on there, man. QB look to have you on there at some point as well, man. [00:55:06] Speaker C: Appreciate it. [00:55:07] Speaker A: Hey, brothers, I love y' all and I appreciate y'. [00:55:09] Speaker D: All. [00:55:09] Speaker C: Love you too, man. Appreciate y' all.